Yes I can weigh the rods end for end (to .1 gms) but will need to make a jig to do so (will do so over the week end).
These are Eagle H beam rods for an SBC so don't have the LE ballance pad (or any big end ballance pad) that the standard SBC rods have hence also the surface treatment on all surfaces (appart from the L/E and B/L very end surfaces about .75mm and these are a bearing surface themselves, I'll post a photo tonight. the pistons are fully coated so don't want to machine them if I can avoid it, I could weigh all the rings and locks and select those to bring in the last .2 of a gm or so on the pistons then match to the little end weight and get those to match. that would then just leave the big ends......
Is there any milage in the washer under the rod bolt approach or is this a real no no?

Any ideas of tollerences you would aim for? I was going to aim for +/- .2 grams on piston, pin pairs, (scales probably arn't actually better than that) then match them up with rod little end masses, then bring in the light rod as far as possable then pair these up lightest big end with heaviest and see if this gets the big ends on the crank with the same masses. it all really hinges on this light rod (unless it turns out the light rod has a heavy big end!

thanks again boosted I would really welcome your comment
Mike